Does anyone else feel this is wrong?
I have been thinking about doing something for the longest time. I am thinking of tell my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend that we have another kid together that is about five months younger then the one she has with him. Now she is about to have another child with him. Yes before anyone get judgemental on me about the fact of him cheating on her and me participating in the situation. I know it was wrong but that was then and this is now. He wants to deny this child we have but wants to keep acknowledging the other child we have together. I don't feel that this is right. Does anyone else feel that this is wrong? I told him when him and her were having problems that he should tell her because it would get everything out in the open and she would have no surprises later for her to get mad at him about. Unfortunately he didn't see the wisdom in that decision only the fact that it would make things worst and he would be out on his ass I guess. I didn't believe it for out of all the stuff that has gone on with the two of them I am sure she would have gotten over it and accepted it. I am tired of carrying this secret for him and now my other child is asking questions about his little brother. I tell him that his dad is his brothers dad, but he wonders why he does things with him and his girlfriends son that they have together and don't do anything with his other little brother at home. I don't know how to explain it to him. I often think of them growing up and how I would have to explain things to him. I wonder if it would cause a riff between the two brother who love each other so much now. I know this other baby I have was not a planned thing I did protect myself, but things happen. But the baby he has with his girlfriend was not a planned thing either that baby came from a rebound of another relationship. And now to be told that he is having another one while he still denies this one is a bit crazy to me.
So now I am faced with the decision of whether or not I should just come straight out and tell her. Or just sit back and do nothing and wait for the eventual fall out. Yet still he (my youngest son) suffers from the lack of attention from the father he should know. I don't know how he could come and visit with his other son and not pay to the baby that we have together.
I know that we all make our choices and we have to deal with the choices that we make. It seems though I am the only one that is dealing with it. He is living his life with his girlfriend in what she thinks is bliss and in actuality the rug can be dragged from under her feet.
I was just wondering if maybe through some objective opinions that I could possibly make a decision that would help me in my dilemma.
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